How to Handle Loss of Recognition in Dementia

Loss of recognition in dementia is never easy to accept, but these tips will help.

You’ve been caring for your mom since her dementia diagnosis, doing your best to manage the ups and downs of the disease. One day, she looks at you with a blank stare or calls you by the name of someone else—a sibling, her spouse, or even her own parent. The sting of the loss of recognition in dementia is overwhelming. Should you correct her? Ignore it? Or embrace the new role she’s assigned you?

Recognition loss is one of dementia’s most heartbreaking effects. Watching someone you love struggle to connect the dots of who you are is never easy. However, how you respond in these moments can shape the interaction and bring peace to the person you love.

How to Respond to Recognition Confusion

1. Keep Your Emotions in Check. Dementia is unpredictable, and emotional reactions can escalate the situation. Your tone and attitude set the stage for the interaction, so remain calm and positive. Even if your heart aches, try to focus on comforting your family member rather than expressing sadness or frustration.
2. Validate Their Reality. When the person you love confuses your identity, meet them where they are. If your mom thinks you’re her brother, respond as though that’s true. This approach avoids unnecessary correction, which can lead to frustration or agitation. Reinforce their sense of familiarity and safety by addressing them by name and using warm, affirming language.
3. Reconnect Through the Past. Long-term memories often stay intact longer than short-term ones. Use this to your advantage by reminiscing about their favorite childhood stories or shared experiences. Familiar music, photos, or even scents, like a favorite meal cooking, can also evoke comforting memories.

Acknowledging Your Own Grief

Caring for someone with dementia often brings a unique form of grief—the loss of who they once were, even while they’re still physically present. Recognizing and addressing your feelings is a crucial part of maintaining your own well-being.

• Talk it out: Seek support from a therapist or connect with others in dementia caregiving support groups. Hearing others’ experiences can provide valuable perspective and reassurance.
• Take time for yourself: Step away from caregiving when you can to focus on hobbies or simply rest. Recharge your energy so you can continue to provide the best care possible.

Shifting Perspective

It’s tempting to try to “fix” memory loss by jogging the person’s recollection. However, it’s important to understand that dementia erases memories permanently. Asking them to remember can often cause more stress and confusion.

Instead, focus on their remaining abilities and strengths. Does your mom still enjoy gardening, singing, or spending time with family pets? Celebrate these moments of joy, however small they may seem.

Partnering With Professional Care

You don’t have to face the journey of dementia care alone. At Hired Hands Homecare, we specialize in supporting families through the challenges of dementia. Our caregivers are trained to provide compassionate care, creative solutions, and emotional support for both seniors and their families.

Contact us today at (866) 940-4343 to learn more about how we can assist you in providing the best care for someone you love in Novato, Santa Rosa, Napa, or throughout the Bay Area. Together, we can make even the most challenging days brighter.